RIP matt jones (12 Viewers)
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Nick
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I'd like to say 99% of people on here could spend the day calling each other cunts and bickering about pointless stuff but would genuinely have time for others if they needed it.
Like you say, regardless if I'm arguing about player ratings or equally irrelevant stuff if somebody needed help or were in a dark place I'd happily be there.
Tile Hill Phil
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Such sad news. Must have been in a really dark place bless him. As other people have said please reach out if you’re feeling down. Hope his family get the support they need. Rest in peace Matt
Lamps
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Have been there myself in recent years. It's something you can't explain. All you do is concentrate on the bad things then they magnify. You just can't see any other way out. Then comments from others even when they think they are being helpful can push you even further.
My thoughts are with his family and friends. RIP Matt
My thoughts are with his family and friends. RIP Matt
Earlsdon_Skyblue1
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Echo the other statements. There's a lot of depression and hardship around at the moment. If you are suffering there is no shame to reach out. I'm also sure many members on here will listen if you are feeling really low.
RIP Matt.
RIP Matt.
SomersetSB
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RIP Matt, thoughts are with his family at this time 🩵
robbiethemole
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Footy is nothing compared to this tragedy.
RIP Matt. Sleep Well
RIP Matt. Sleep Well
David O'Day
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tragic 
As has been said, it's okay to be not okay and there is always some one who you can reach out to
As has been said, it's okay to be not okay and there is always some one who you can reach out to
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Rest in peace Matt. So sad.
Please reach out if you are struggling. It definitely helps. I went to a bereavement group a few years ago. Everyone was so welcoming and it really helped me at the time. I often look back and think how glad I am I that I walked through the door that evening
Please reach out if you are struggling. It definitely helps. I went to a bereavement group a few years ago. Everyone was so welcoming and it really helped me at the time. I often look back and think how glad I am I that I walked through the door that evening
Moff
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Following on from the great posts (and its difficult to say that in light of the circumstances of this thread.....But they are great posts for their good advice) from @clint van damme @Briles and @SBT about reaching out, and contacting people if you are in a bad place, I would advocate anyone in this situation to reach out, as there is always someone there to listen whether its the excellent Samaritans, Mental Health charities or organisations, or even us lot on here.
Having lost someone very close like this, I would never ever want anyone to go through the same.
Having lost someone very close like this, I would never ever want anyone to go through the same.
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StrettoBoy
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So very sad 
RIP Matt.
Well said @SBT. Although not a Samaritan myself I worked with them, in a professional services support capacity (free of charge I hasten to say), for many years. They are a great bunch of people who do great work.
I also have a friend who turned to them for help many years ago and they saved his life. I asked him why he couldn't have talked things through with me and he said he would have been too embarrassed. The anonymity of Samaritans and the importance of being able to talk to someone he didn't know, who therefore didn't have any preconceived ideas about the problem, was important to him. It made perfect sense to me. It was at least ten years after he sought help that he felt able to open up to me about it. From the depths of despair he now has a wonderful life.
RIP Matt.Well said @SBT. Although not a Samaritan myself I worked with them, in a professional services support capacity (free of charge I hasten to say), for many years. They are a great bunch of people who do great work.
I also have a friend who turned to them for help many years ago and they saved his life. I asked him why he couldn't have talked things through with me and he said he would have been too embarrassed. The anonymity of Samaritans and the importance of being able to talk to someone he didn't know, who therefore didn't have any preconceived ideas about the problem, was important to him. It made perfect sense to me. It was at least ten years after he sought help that he felt able to open up to me about it. From the depths of despair he now has a wonderful life.
Londonccfcfan
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RIP Matt.
This video really hits hard. Take care.
This video really hits hard. Take care.
RegiswasGod
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Nick
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Yeah there's a lot of services where you can be "anonymous" which will make the difference.So very sad
Well said @SBT. Although not a Samaritan myself I worked with them, in a professional services support capacity (free of charge I hasten to say), for many years. They are a great bunch of people who do great work.
I also have a friend who turned to them for help many years ago and they saved his life. I asked him why he couldn't have talked things through with me and he said he would have been too embarrassed. The anonymity of Samaritans and the importance of being able to talk to someone he didn't know, who therefore didn't have any preconceived ideas about the problem, was important to him. It made perfect sense to me. It was at least ten years after he sought help that he felt able to open up to me about it. From the depths of despair he now has a wonderful life.
Even if it's just a message back at that time that can make the brain go in a different direction.
Ccfc_Addy
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Firstly: Thank you @Nick for your truly excellent thread of resources and guidance. I have no doubt it will be of great help and comfort.
I never had the pleasure of meeting Matt but this is truly horrible news and I feel awful at the idea that he felt like this was the only way out of whatever he was going through.
I can only echo what others have said - There is a genuine men's mental health crisis, and so many of us are suffering in ways that others will never know because we've been conditioned to keep ourselves to ourselves and not burden others with our problems. I had my own mental breakdown in 2018, the various pressures and traumas of my life finally getting to a point where I couldn't keep on top of them anymore and basic functioning felt like an impossibility. I ended up going to my GP and begging them for help because I couldn't tolerate the idea of being alive anymore. Thank god they took me seriously and put me on the path to obtain appropriate help, both medical and counselling.
I emplore any of you who may be feeling even slightly like that: Please speak to someone, anyone. Please stay with us.
RIP, Matt. Forever a part of the Sky Blue Army. I wish I could have met you 🩵
I never had the pleasure of meeting Matt but this is truly horrible news and I feel awful at the idea that he felt like this was the only way out of whatever he was going through.
I can only echo what others have said - There is a genuine men's mental health crisis, and so many of us are suffering in ways that others will never know because we've been conditioned to keep ourselves to ourselves and not burden others with our problems. I had my own mental breakdown in 2018, the various pressures and traumas of my life finally getting to a point where I couldn't keep on top of them anymore and basic functioning felt like an impossibility. I ended up going to my GP and begging them for help because I couldn't tolerate the idea of being alive anymore. Thank god they took me seriously and put me on the path to obtain appropriate help, both medical and counselling.
I emplore any of you who may be feeling even slightly like that: Please speak to someone, anyone. Please stay with us.
RIP, Matt. Forever a part of the Sky Blue Army. I wish I could have met you 🩵
tisza
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RIP Matt. It's genuinely heart-breaking when you see these. I don't think this is the first instance on SBT.
For those thinking they need help check this link and realise you're really not alone and far too many men are in similar situations
Doncaster: 'I wouldn't be here without Andy's Man Club'
That's just a snapshot of one town in the UK.
For those thinking they need help check this link and realise you're really not alone and far too many men are in similar situations
Doncaster: 'I wouldn't be here without Andy's Man Club'
That's just a snapshot of one town in the UK.
olderskyblue
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Tragic. RIP Matt
tisza
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Are you happy
I'm having a bit of a think. I'm not happy. I'm not happy with me. I'm not happy with who I've become. I'm going to change me. With all this mental health awareness around of late I think I can admit to a whole load of unknown people that I'm not happy with me. I did a test online, I've always...
www.skybluestalk.co.uk
maybe it's time to re-energise this thread. People did listen and cared.
DazzleTommyDazzle
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Very sad news.
RIP Matt.
RIP Matt.
Neil Martins head
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So so sorry to hear this news. Thoughts and prayers with his loved on. God bless you mate.
RoboCCFC90
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RIP Matt, my condolences to your friends and family 🩵
Hoofhearted
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Awful news, RIP Matt, always heartbreaking to lose a member of the Skyblue family 🩵
eyesee
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really sad news. my thoughts are with his family and friends.
i didn't know him, but he was one of our own.
people have already said it, but it's always best to reach out if you are struggling. don't suffer in silence.
and be nice to each other. we often have differences of opinion on here, but at the end of the day we are on the same side.
so let's keep things positive, even if we happen to disagree on things.
i didn't know him, but he was one of our own.
people have already said it, but it's always best to reach out if you are struggling. don't suffer in silence.
and be nice to each other. we often have differences of opinion on here, but at the end of the day we are on the same side.
so let's keep things positive, even if we happen to disagree on things.
stevefloyd
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RIP Matt, terrible news I cannot understand the depths these poor people sink to to want to do that, my brother in law took his own life in 2001, I struggled to understand it then and still do now, the most precious thing you have in life is your own life very very sad.
My thoughts go out to his family who are obviously devastated !
My thoughts go out to his family who are obviously devastated !