RIP matt jones (8 Viewers)

Bad Boy

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 9:26 AM

• #36

Forever Sky Blue.

May he find light happiness and peace.

 

Nick

Administrator

• Yesterday at 9:28 AM

• #37

covcity4life said:

Really sad news. You never know what's going through someone's head. Thoughts with his family

We argue a lot on here but echo clint sentiment. If you need help reach out. Councelling genuinely does help it's not just a thing people say.

RIP Matt

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I'd like to say 99% of people on here could spend the day calling each other cunts and bickering about pointless stuff but would genuinely have time for others if they needed it.

Like you say, regardless if I'm arguing about player ratings or equally irrelevant stuff if somebody needed help or were in a dark place I'd happily be there.

 

Tealeaf

Active Member

• Yesterday at 9:30 AM

• #38

RIP Matt, such sad news

 

Hobo

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 9:34 AM

• #39

Very sad news. My thoughts are with his family and friends.

RIP Matt.

 

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Tile Hill Phil

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 9:35 AM

• #40

Such sad news. Must have been in a really dark place bless him. As other people have said please reach out if you’re feeling down. Hope his family get the support they need. Rest in peace Matt

 

Lamps

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 9:49 AM

• #41

Have been there myself in recent years. It's something you can't explain. All you do is concentrate on the bad things then they magnify. You just can't see any other way out. Then comments from others even when they think they are being helpful can push you even further.

My thoughts are with his family and friends. RIP Matt

 

Earlsdon_Skyblue1

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 9:59 AM

• #42

Echo the other statements. There's a lot of depression and hardship around at the moment. If you are suffering there is no shame to reach out. I'm also sure many members on here will listen if you are feeling really low.

RIP Matt.

 

ovduk78

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:00 AM

• #43

RIP Matt

 

SomersetSB

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:01 AM

• #44

RIP Matt, thoughts are with his family at this time 🩵

 

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robbiethemole

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:01 AM

• #45

Footy is nothing compared to this tragedy.
RIP Matt. Sleep Well

 

Moff

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:03 AM

• #46

Really sad new, RIP Matt.

 

David O'Day

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:05 AM

• #47

tragic

As has been said, it's okay to be not okay and there is always some one who you can reach out to

 

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MTK

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:06 AM

• #48

Rest in peace Matt. So sad.

Please reach out if you are struggling. It definitely helps. I went to a bereavement group a few years ago. Everyone was so welcoming and it really helped me at the time. I often look back and think how glad I am I that I walked through the door that evening

 

Sbarcher

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:07 AM

• #49

RIP Matt.
Thoughts are with his family, I know what they are going through.

 

Moff

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:08 AM

• #50

Following on from the great posts (and its difficult to say that in light of the circumstances of this thread.....But they are great posts for their good advice) from @clint van damme @Briles and @SBT about reaching out, and contacting people if you are in a bad place, I would advocate anyone in this situation to reach out, as there is always someone there to listen whether its the excellent Samaritans, Mental Health charities or organisations, or even us lot on here.

Having lost someone very close like this, I would never ever want anyone to go through the same.

 

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fatso

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:09 AM

• #51

RIP Matt
Such sad news

 

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StrettoBoy

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:10 AM

• #52

So very sad RIP Matt.

SBT said:

If anyone’s struggling with their mental health, or just wants to talk with someone, the number for Samaritans (24 hours) is 116 123, or you can email them: jo@samaritans.org

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Well said @SBT. Although not a Samaritan myself I worked with them, in a professional services support capacity (free of charge I hasten to say), for many years. They are a great bunch of people who do great work.

I also have a friend who turned to them for help many years ago and they saved his life. I asked him why he couldn't have talked things through with me and he said he would have been too embarrassed. The anonymity of Samaritans and the importance of being able to talk to someone he didn't know, who therefore didn't have any preconceived ideas about the problem, was important to him. It made perfect sense to me. It was at least ten years after he sought help that he felt able to open up to me about it. From the depths of despair he now has a wonderful life.

 

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quinn1971

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:15 AM

• #53

RIP Matt, so sad to hear

 

Londonccfcfan

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:15 AM

• #54

RIP Matt.

This video really hits hard. Take care.

 

RegiswasGod

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:19 AM

• #55

🩵

 

Nick

Administrator

• Yesterday at 10:20 AM

• #56

StrettoBoy said:

So very sad RIP Matt.



Well said @SBT. Although not a Samaritan myself I worked with them, in a professional services support capacity (free of charge I hasten to say), for many years. They are a great bunch of people who do great work.

I also have a friend who turned to them for help many years ago and they saved his life. I asked him why he couldn't have talked things through with me and he said he would have been too embarrassed. The anonymity of Samaritans and the importance of being able to talk to someone he didn't know, who therefore didn't have any preconceived ideas about the problem, was important to him. It made perfect sense to me. It was at least ten years after he sought help that he felt able to open up to me about it. From the depths of despair he now has a wonderful life.

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Yeah there's a lot of services where you can be "anonymous" which will make the difference.

Even if it's just a message back at that time that can make the brain go in a different direction.

 

Ccfc_Addy

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:27 AM

• #57

Firstly: Thank you @Nick for your truly excellent thread of resources and guidance. I have no doubt it will be of great help and comfort.

I never had the pleasure of meeting Matt but this is truly horrible news and I feel awful at the idea that he felt like this was the only way out of whatever he was going through.

I can only echo what others have said - There is a genuine men's mental health crisis, and so many of us are suffering in ways that others will never know because we've been conditioned to keep ourselves to ourselves and not burden others with our problems. I had my own mental breakdown in 2018, the various pressures and traumas of my life finally getting to a point where I couldn't keep on top of them anymore and basic functioning felt like an impossibility. I ended up going to my GP and begging them for help because I couldn't tolerate the idea of being alive anymore. Thank god they took me seriously and put me on the path to obtain appropriate help, both medical and counselling.

I emplore any of you who may be feeling even slightly like that: Please speak to someone, anyone. Please stay with us.

RIP, Matt. Forever a part of the Sky Blue Army. I wish I could have met you 🩵

 

tisza

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:28 AM

• #58

RIP Matt. It's genuinely heart-breaking when you see these. I don't think this is the first instance on SBT.
For those thinking they need help check this link and realise you're really not alone and far too many men are in similar situations
Doncaster: 'I wouldn't be here without Andy's Man Club'

That's just a snapshot of one town in the UK.

 

olderskyblue

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:32 AM

• #59

Tragic. RIP Matt

 

tisza

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:35 AM

• #60

Are you happy

I'm having a bit of a think. I'm not happy. I'm not happy with me. I'm not happy with who I've become. I'm going to change me. With all this mental health awareness around of late I think I can admit to a whole load of unknown people that I'm not happy with me. I did a test online, I've always...

www.skybluestalk.co.uk

maybe it's time to re-energise this thread. People did listen and cared.

 

DazzleTommyDazzle

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:35 AM

• #61

Very sad news.

RIP Matt.

 

ccfcchris

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:36 AM

• #62

So very sad to read about this. The lad looked no age at all in that photo.

RIP

Thoughts with his family.

 

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Neil Martins head

Active Member

• Yesterday at 10:37 AM

• #63

So so sorry to hear this news. Thoughts and prayers with his loved on. God bless you mate.

 

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RoboCCFC90

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:50 AM

• #64

RIP Matt, my condolences to your friends and family 🩵

 

chiefdave

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:52 AM

• #65

RIP Matt, so sad to think of one of our fellow supporters thinking this is their only option

 

rob9872

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 10:55 AM

• #66

RIP Matt, didn't know you but part of the Sky Blue family forever. Thinking of your family right now.

RIP

 

Hoofhearted

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 11:07 AM

• #67

Awful news, RIP Matt, always heartbreaking to lose a member of the Skyblue family 🩵

 

eyesee

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 11:07 AM

• #68

really sad news. my thoughts are with his family and friends.
i didn't know him, but he was one of our own.

people have already said it, but it's always best to reach out if you are struggling. don't suffer in silence.

and be nice to each other. we often have differences of opinion on here, but at the end of the day we are on the same side.
so let's keep things positive, even if we happen to disagree on things.

 

stevefloyd

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 11:12 AM

• #69

RIP Matt, terrible news I cannot understand the depths these poor people sink to to want to do that, my brother in law took his own life in 2001, I struggled to understand it then and still do now, the most precious thing you have in life is your own life very very sad.
My thoughts go out to his family who are obviously devastated !

 

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CCFCSteve

Well-Known Member

• Yesterday at 11:12 AM

• #70

RIP and condolences to Matt’s family and friends. Such sad, sad news. Can only echo comments from Clint and others to implore people to please reach out if you’re struggling (great work with the new thread Nick)