'Neurodiversity' (4 Viewers)

[Nick]

Best of luck with it, truly. I hope you find the answers you're looking for!

It's just really the medication to quieten my brain. I've come to terms with the fact I'm a bell end and sadly I can't fall back on diagnosis for an excuse.

 

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[Nick]

I remember my dad finally telling us all several years ago that he had been diagnosed with several things and some of it had been so hard for him to deal with (OCD) All his life.

It shocked me as i had no idea and i remember saying to my step mum that my dad couldnt have all these things as he was normal ... her response was pretty blunt .. she said yes he is normal .. to you .


Made me realise tbh

Bet he was and is absolutely exhausted masking it

 

[Evo1883]

Bet he was and is absolutely exhausted masking it

Yea , since he " came out " i notice so much more .. but i reckon its more to do with the fact hes stopped masking around us

 

[Nick]

Yea , since he " came out " i notice so much more .. but i reckon its more to do with the fact hes stopped masking around us

Plus you are probably more educated on it now so know the signs.

I do think the stereotypes mislead a bit, people have a naughty kid so they instantly shout ADHD and then that's assumed what it is.

The waiting list etc is a bit of a joke, I do think they should have a "do you want to claim benefits if you are diagnosed" and if people say yes they go to the bottom of the queue and if they say no then they can't for x years. They should also ask "what are you doing to help yourself" and "what will you do to help yourself if diagnosed".

The questions that gp asks are a bit basic and high level. The actual assessment does go much more in depth.

 

[Otis]

Is this thread for sympathy or is it being used as a confessional.

There are too many distractions in life now but I wouldn't want to go back to the 1960's when Sundays were a drag because there was nothing to do.

Confessional for me.

 

[Ccfcisparks]

Plus you are probably more educated on it now so know the signs.

I do think the stereotypes mislead a bit, people have a naughty kid so they instantly shout ADHD and then that's assumed what it is.

The waiting list etc is a bit of a joke, I do think they should have a "do you want to claim benefits if you are diagnosed" and if people say yes they go to the bottom of the queue and if they say no then they can't for x years. They should also ask "what are you doing to help yourself" and "what will you do to help yourself if diagnosed".

The questions that gp asks are a bit basic and high level. The actual assessment does go much more in depth.

I didn’t know the GP could diagnose neurodiversity. I thought it was just a psychiatrist

 

[Nick]

I didn’t know the GP could diagnose neurodiversity. I thought it was just a psychiatrist

Oh I mean for them to refer. GP just gets you to fill a form with basic questions.

 

[duffer]

I worked at Birmingham Airport for a couple of years up until last summer and the amount of people who used to completely cheat the system and get a sunflower lanyard just to skip the security queue and be first on the plane was ridiculous, once saw the mother of one family flashing her lanyard about going 'told you it would work' just after security

Unfortunately like many things in life it is a genuine concern/issue that has been hijacked by a select few to completely take the piss to detriment of the people who actually need the support

The people who take the piss are basically just scum-sucking bottom-feeders, but I'd still rather have support for those who might need it, at the expense of knowing that there will be a small, scuzzy, minority that abuse it.

Huge kudos to anyone here with the guts to admit they might have a problem, and the courage to try to sort it out. Not sure I'm there yet, not sure I ever will be.

And @Otis , you don't need subtitles because you're autistic mate, you need them because you're getting older and deafer. Just turn the telly up you daft bugger.

 

[Ectemnius]

Going through the assessment process as we speak, had my Autism assessments last week, ADHD one to come in March. I have had countless bouts of heavy depression since young, been through the antidepressant treatments and all the CBT etc over the years. My sister's kids are all either diagnosed or awaiting diagnosis, which got us, and the GP, considering that my issues may be related to neurodivergency.

I am lucky as have access to health insurance with work so going down that route, but my daughter struggles with Dyslexia and clearly has ADHD but currently has a 10 year wait up here to get an assessment. If I can get the money together in the next few years may try to get her assessed privately. We do not have right to choose in Scotland.

Genetically, it has come from my Dad's side of the family, looking back he had traits that we just put down to 'who he was'.

By the way, I am in my 50's, and only seeking answers that give a name to the issue. May help me get on top of it and manage it more effectively in the future.

 

[rob9872]

I'm an undiagnosed complete fekkin fruitcake. ADHD possibly, certainly OCD and a touch of tourettes (not just the sweary kind, a few weird traits). Add into the mix diabetes, poor eyesight, overweight, fused ankle from a football injury and an addictive personality and its not really a surprise I'm a nutcase. Must be an earner in it somewhere, but tbh I'm too lazy to bother with it.

 

[PaulPUSB]

I like watching the washing machine go round.. and had my oven raised fom the original plans so I could watch my food cook.

Does that qualify me for a Blue Badge and queue jumps?

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[wingy]

I've taken to shouting at people in the street, usually for parking enforcement or people who leave there bins obstructing the pavement.

 

[fernandopartridge]

I'm an undiagnosed complete fekkin fruitcake. ADHD possibly, certainly OCD and a touch of tourettes (not just the sweary kind, a few weird traits). Add into the mix diabetes, poor eyesight, overweight, fused ankle from a football injury and an addictive personality and its not really a surprise I'm a nutcase. Must be an earner in it somewhere, but tbh I'm too lazy to bother with it.

Knew the Leamington and Warwick lot wouldn't pass up the chance to get first in the queue for tickets

 

[SBAndy]

Not quite on topic, but this thread reminded me of an advertising board I used to see at the Ricoh.

identifydyslexia.com

Used to imagine that when you get to the homepage it just said “you don’t have dyslexia”.

 

[Sick Boy]

I reckon I probably have it to a certain extent but never been diagnosed or spoken to anyone about it. Definitely got a bit of OCD, which leads to compulsions every now and then that can be a bit debilitating.

 

[Skybluekyle]

I was hesitant about whether to contribute, but I too am currently going through the diagnostic journey for possible neurodiversity. I actually hold a lot of the same tensions as stated in this thread, there does feel like a tendency towards label-chasing as a means to excuse one's behaviour, but at the same time there are many people out there silently suffering and the current focus on neurodiversity is a means of correction.

I wont go into the minutiae of my own situation, but I just want answers to my own experiences of living in a world that just doesn't feel like it's made for people like me and a missing life manual imprinted in others at a young age but not I. A diagnosis would not be a label or an excuse but an answer to a lifelong question of who I am and why I have weaknesses I have, but conversely also the strengths. That is not to trivilise or invalidate the struggles of others, of which we all have our own weaknesses and strengths.

 

[Sky_Blue_Dreamer]

Anybody else think this is getting a bit much now? Humans are different yet every subtle difference is being badged. Employers now embracing it and then you're potentially at risk of not recognising somebody being ND.

I know around here there are 28k people on the list for an ADHD assessment. People complete a questionnaire that asks things like do they ever get distracted from a boring task which then suggests they have an ADHD assessment.

I think a lot of what people perceive as potential ADHD traits are in reality just the consequences of having a smart phone.

I do agree with you (and we're supposed to be part of the woke leftie brigade!)

I want to make very clear that I definitely see people and kids at my place of work that are clearly ND and definitely need and deserve help.

For me, the ones I see that you wonder about, it's the parents. Basically, they don't want to discipline their children and let them get away with everything, and a ND diagnosis gives them the excuse to do so. For example, I know someone who was teaching an education course to kids, and one of the kids was kicking the hell out of another kid. yet the kid's parent was just "he can't help it, he's autistic." One of the people running the course got annoyed with this and shouted at the kid. Guess what? The kid stopped kicking the other kid. Apparently the look of shock on his face when someone had actually told him off. But also guess who complained and got that person in trouble?

I also think it's becoming too much of a thing where it's being used to define a person, and ultimately not helping them long term as it rules their life. Making allowances for people is fine, but it can't be a point where everything you do has to made so they can deal with things more easily.

On a personal level, I am sure that if I were a kid now, I would get tested for mild autism and OCD. I've had friends tell me that people they know that I've met have said they thought I was on the spectrum. But I didn't have that as a kid and as such had to learn to cope with all the awkwardness and just being different to others. And I'm actually glad. Because of that, I have learnt how to function around others and can live a 'normal' life. If I'd had people making allowances for me all the time I really don't think Id be able to cope in the real world now.