hill83
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You definitely don't sound like a fool. It will worth looking into finding someone to talk to. It's a big step and for sure and I'd probably struggle to do it myself, but even your post itself is a start.
don't want to sound like a fool, but starting to give up on life and love, sometimes i feel like I'm not good enough for anyone. feel alone from time to time when i over think it does serious damage, don't seem to be able to snap out of it either, considering seeing some one regarding my issues as ive tried a few things in the past just seems like past couple of weeks its hit me hardest. my mind set is all over the place. im normally a happy go lucky guy bubbly and fun but soemthing seems to be sapping the goodness out of me at the moment.
You definitely don't sound like a fool. It will worth looking into finding someone to talk to. It's a big step and for sure and I'd probably struggle to do it myself, but even your post itself is a start.
thanks Hill, wasn't going to post anything just thought id get it out my head. i will be making a few inquires into seeing a specialist at some point this week as its getting abit out of hand and could do with clearing a few webs from my head.
dont suppose anyone knows any good practices or recommendations regarding mental health, i know theres afew about just wondered if there were any around coventry
fair play to yourself aswell under your circumstances its never easy to deal with marriage breakups. at the best of times.
I must admit switching off from the news and social media is a major aspect. There is literally nothing positive there apart from people selling you their side of the argument (even when there is no argument to be had!). This in itself is soul destroyingThis year I've been through a marriage breakup, obviously this pandemic shite, a substantial pay cut at work and my dad having health issues, so it's been a shit year. Barely seeing my son now is probably the hardest part.
But I actually feel like I'm coming out the other side of it now. Started lifting weights again, stopped drinking so much and just trying to think positively. So feel pretty good at the moment. Also trying not to get bogged down with internet bollocks, including on here and trying to not watch Cov games this season as we are fucking shite and getting our arses handed to us so far.
Had to go on a course a while back but one of the more practical tips is around routine. Sounds daft and simple but write down and things you want/need to achieve day by day. I’m not talking shite like speaking a new language, run a marathon etc it needs to be more basic than that such as cut the grass, clean the kitchen, go walk 10,000 steps. Obviously it varies given the level of depression the individual is in but it’s about winning small battles which then becomes habitual and second nature. One you can adapt and grow but it’s really effective in tackling a shite state of mind and applying focusthanks Hill, wasn't going to post anything just thought id get it out my head. i will be making a few inquires into seeing a specialist at some point this week as its getting abit out of hand and could do with clearing a few webs from my head.
dont suppose anyone knows any good practices or recommendations regarding mental health, i know theres afew about just wondered if there were any around coventry
fair play to yourself aswell under your circumstances its never easy to deal with marriage breakups. at the best of times.
Got my meeting on Friday , hope every one else is ok
To be honest mate looking at the questionnaire I think they deal with way worse situations the me , but I’m open to any suggestions or strategies they can offerGood luck Daz. This next month will definitely take it's toll on some people.
If it does, people got to keep reaching out - we will get through it!!
To be honest mate looking at the questionnaire I think they deal with way worse situations the me , but I’m open to any suggestions or strategies they can offer
thanks Hill, wasn't going to post anything just thought id get it out my head. i will be making a few inquires into seeing a specialist at some point this week as its getting abit out of hand and could do with clearing a few webs from my head.
dont suppose anyone knows any good practices or recommendations regarding mental health, i know theres afew about just wondered if there were any around coventry
fair play to yourself aswell under your circumstances its never easy to deal with marriage breakups. at the best of times.
Great newsMy dad just got the all clear on his biopsy results. Buzzing
I’ll start most of my posts the same way with, I’ve had a beer.
But I genuinely feel like I’ve got mates on here, not including the people I actually know, so thanks.
Blouse
Wheatsheaf
Great news.My dad just got the all clear on his biopsy results. Buzzing
My stone island is in.the dry cleaners
Lockdown 2 and the result last night has left me feeling shite today, don’t think I’d be arsed about the Cov result if there was something to do to take my mind off it.
Sounds like a combination of anxiety coupled with depression to be fair good to hear you got out of it .It’s good to read stuff like this, in a weird way. I had a bout of anxiety at university in my final year. I generally lost interest in everything; rugby, football and did not care if I failed at university.
Eventually, it took for my then girlfriend to express her concerns to my mum. Who called me just outside a restaurant where my team was having a get together for team bonding as part of our varsity preparation. I was holding back tears. A week later, had to deal with a breakup just as I’d arranged to see a counsellor.
Anyway, things that helped me through my battle of beating my ‘wobble’. Stoic philosophy and teachings helped as a coping mechanism, and put some perspective on life. At this time, Tyson Fury’s Joe Rogan podcast appearance was inspiring, and equally harrowing (I seen him as a drunken mess weeks before he came out with his issues). Also, generally drinking less, procrastinating less and for me, getting out of academia and into the work place gave a lot more structure to my life and that helped a lot.
This is my third year of doing Movember properly, so I’m going to leave my fundraising link at the bottom here.
Perhaps in 2021, we could do an SBT fundraiser too!
Please donate, if you can:
Taylor Mathews's Mo Space
Taylor's Motivation: I'm raising funds and awareness this Movember for all the dads, brothers, sons and mates in our lives. I need your help. Please donate to support men's health.movember.com
Cheer up mate. Things can only get better!
It's a nice evening, how about a nice walk?
when I suggested this I forgot it was bonfire night. Was like Pearl Harbour round by me. Some clown up the road set fire to tree in his garden.
Sounds like a combination of anxiety coupled with depression to be fair good to hear you got out of it .
The stoic side is interesting .
Roughly for 30 years my problems came from a reactive depression from a life event.
My whole resilience evaporated ,which had been there in spades up until that point .
Probably had 3 breakdowns since that time .
Inefficiently and ineffectively trying to deal with the pitfalls of my life until I got to 61 and it all collapsed in and finally got treatment ,which I did seek at the initial point but for whatever reason I didn't articulate or the GP didn't realise where I was at.
I'm not really up on the stoicism, but strangely enough my YT feed popped up some Alan Watts lecture's .It probably was, I was certainly in a rut at this time, 100%. There is something about University life that breeds negative mental health issues. At a guess, excessive drinking (plus other substances) and lack of a daily routine/structure impacts most students.
I’d recommend picking up some Stoic literature - or even YouTube Stoicism as an introduction. I’m not religious, at all. But, the principles of Christianity and particularly Buddhism are similar to the Stoics. As a history student, I do think there are some fundamental truths buried in ancient wisdom - harsher times.
I’m glad you’re on the up and got the treatment you needed! Thankfully, with mental health issues being publicised and the stigma gradually being removed, people will find it easier to talk to a GP and get help.
As a side note: a big thank you to the anonymous donor to my Movember page! Every £ helps!
It's shame your relationship broke up ,but she obviously looked out for you by alerting your mum .It probably was, I was certainly in a rut at this time, 100%. There is something about University life that breeds negative mental health issues. At a guess, excessive drinking (plus other substances) and lack of a daily routine/structure impacts most students.
I’d recommend picking up some Stoic literature - or even YouTube Stoicism as an introduction. I’m not religious, at all. But, the principles of Christianity and particularly Buddhism are similar to the Stoics. As a history graduate, I do think there are some fundamental truths buried in ancient wisdom - harsher times.
I’m glad you’re on the up and got the treatment you needed! Thankfully, with mental health issues being publicised and the stigma gradually being removed, people will find it easier to talk to a GP and get help.
As a side note: a big thank you to the anonymous donor to my Movember page! Every £ helps!
So strange reading this. Almost exactly the same situation for me. Struggle with University couple with a rough breakup was my first real breakdown.It’s good to read stuff like this, in a weird way. I had a bout of anxiety at university in my final year. I generally lost interest in everything; rugby, football and did not care if I failed at university.
Eventually, it took for my then girlfriend to express her concerns to my mum. Who called me just outside a restaurant where my team was having a get together for team bonding as part of our varsity preparation. I was holding back tears. A week later, had to deal with a breakup just as I’d arranged to see a counsellor.
Anyway, things that helped me through my battle of beating my ‘wobble’. Stoic philosophy and teachings helped as a coping mechanism, and put some perspective on life. At this time, Tyson Fury’s Joe Rogan podcast appearance was inspiring, and equally harrowing (I seen him as a drunken mess weeks before he came out with his issues). Also, generally drinking less, procrastinating less and for me, getting out of academia and into the work place gave a lot more structure to my life and that helped a lot.
This is my third year of doing Movember properly, so I’m going to leave my fundraising link at the bottom here.
Perhaps in 2021, we could do an SBT fundraiser too!
Please donate, if you can:
Taylor Mathews's Mo Space
Taylor's Motivation: I'm raising funds and awareness this Movember for all the dads, brothers, sons and mates in our lives. I need your help. Please donate to support men's health.movember.com
So strange reading this. Almost exactly the same situation for me. Struggle with University couple with a rough breakup was my first real breakdown.
It's shame your relationship broke up ,but she obviously looked out for you by alerting your mum .
I am hearing about someone losing the canopy every day at the moment.
It's fucking frightening.
Are you alright?
Valley House?My experience is: try a few and find a therapist you get on with. I had success with a private CBT practitioner, won’t name him as I don’t think he’s still doing it sadly. But he was nothing like the flowery mumsy women you normally get that I didn’t get on with at all. Former alcoholic and Cov lad. Helped me massively once I found someone I respect.
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