Part of me is saying ‘Go on son!’ The other part is saying ‘Fucking social distancing!!!’ But given the situation, ill opt for the former.
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Hope everything works out for you.I mean I wouldn’t be thinking of it as an approach. Possibly would be worth talking though, but I’d be tempted to ignore it.
Nice one! How do you feel? A million dollars I bet!Had my first kiss tonight lads at 27 years old
Probably on his 4th wank of the day already!Nice one! How do you feel? A million dollars I bet!
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Had my first kiss tonight lads at 27 years old
Lockdown has been so weird. Someone said they breezed through first 8 weeks, I can confirm I did but since then it's just been weird. Weather don't help either. Let's begin from the start, in a nutshell.
Ended it with the gf in Jan, been thinking it for a while but did it. It had just got difficult without us really knowing it, many reasons I won't go into. Work with her BTW so no escape. Was due to move in with her in March but that got cancelled, housemate knnew I was on my way out so he made arrangements to shack up with his girl even though he didn't really want to. I then ended my relationship, he couldn't get out of moving in with his so from March I've been on my own.
First 8 weeks were a breeze, proper cleaned the flat after he left and made it more like my own. Every weekend tackling shit cleaning jobs, being ruthless in throwing out junk. Time flew, working from home. 8 weeks, a doddle. Actually saving 350 a month because of no gambling, drinking, eating at restaurants etc.
Next few weeks weather was superb so spent alot of time in the sun, walking or running (usually play footy 2-3 times a week) which made me feel great now the distracting of flat cleaning is over.
Now weather's been a fucking joke and I honestly find myself bored ouut my mind after work hours. Trying to not drink for the sake of it, enjoying the running and trying different healthy meals with the takeaway on a Fri. Cutting out all lager until pubs open.
Situation now is the ex wants to try again, I would love it to work but I dunno if I go down that route again and it doesn't work, how shit everything will be again. Throw in another office girl wants a piece as well, driving me mad offering all sorts. Offices really are utterly bizarre places.
Anyway not sure any of this has made sense. Will read back and apologise if not!
Having read through the thread tonight, so it's all condensed, I would say you need to talk to her. Reading your posts on here you are second guessing everything she has done, not done, said, not said. Suggest to her you need to talk, explain what's going on in your head. Ask her what she wants, of she isn't willing or not ready to be with you unfortunately you need to move on. A line needs to be drawn, to allow yourself to move on.
Only one piece of advice here.Lockdown has been so weird. Someone said they breezed through first 8 weeks, I can confirm I did but since then it's just been weird. Weather don't help either. Let's begin from the start, in a nutshell.
Ended it with the gf in Jan, been thinking it for a while but did it. It had just got difficult without us really knowing it, many reasons I won't go into. Work with her BTW so no escape. Was due to move in with her in March but that got cancelled, housemate knnew I was on my way out so he made arrangements to shack up with his girl even though he didn't really want to. I then ended my relationship, he couldn't get out of moving in with his so from March I've been on my own.
First 8 weeks were a breeze, proper cleaned the flat after he left and made it more like my own. Every weekend tackling shit cleaning jobs, being ruthless in throwing out junk. Time flew, working from home. 8 weeks, a doddle. Actually saving 350 a month because of no gambling, drinking, eating at restaurants etc.
Next few weeks weather was superb so spent alot of time in the sun, walking or running (usually play footy 2-3 times a week) which made me feel great now the distracting of flat cleaning is over.
Now weather's been a fucking joke and I honestly find myself bored ouut my mind after work hours. Trying to not drink for the sake of it, enjoying the running and trying different healthy meals with the takeaway on a Fri. Cutting out all lager until pubs open.
Situation now is the ex wants to try again, I would love it to work but I dunno if I go down that route again and it doesn't work, how shit everything will be again. Throw in another office girl wants a piece as well, driving me mad offering all sorts. Offices really are utterly bizarre places.
Anyway not sure any of this has made sense. Will read back and apologise if not!
Haha. That's the lads answer.Only one piece of advice here.
Smash the other bird.
I think you’ll find it’s the correct answer. :emoji_grin:Haha. That's the lads answer.
Only one piece of advice here.
Smash the other bird.
I am worried that you are already showing too much of yourself and are going to end up in a bad place again.Sort of caught between the two lads.
Obviously I want to know why and what she wants. It is a big head scratcher.
My plan is just to take it slow. I'm going away next week and I've invited her, I'm not going to push it but when I get there if she hasn't come back to me on it I'll ask her straight up about how she feels regarding meeting up, and if she has any desire to hang out.
Guess I will get more of an idea then if I don't in the meantime. Just hope she isn't playing a game or stringing me along, but to reach out after over 5 months is something I guess.
So I smash the office bird. Then the other office ex wants to get back together. I want to as well. No way that works!?
I am worried that you are already showing too much of yourself and are going to end up in a bad place again.
You talk about taking it slow but in the very next sentence you're also going away and you've invited her?!
Who knows what she wants - maybe she wanted to wait until he divorce was finalised or maybe she has been seeing someone else recently and has been dumped, who knows.
The best thing you could do if you really want to be with her is to not make yourself so available and let her come to you. I know this is all easier said than done from an outside perspective but I have been there, made the same mistakes etc.
At the end of the day, if a woman wants to be with you she will make it very clear, i'm sorry to say that this does not seem like it to me but I hope I am wrong.
He's right again, you need to treat women like cats, if you chase a cat it keeps running.
I am worried that you are already showing too much of yourself and are going to end up in a bad place again.
You talk about taking it slow but in the very next sentence you're also going away and you've invited her?!
Who knows what she wants - maybe she wanted to wait until he divorce was finalised or maybe she has been seeing someone else recently and has been dumped, who knows.
The best thing you could do if you really want to be with her is to not make yourself so available and let her come to you. I know this is all easier said than done from an outside perspective but I have been there, made the same mistakes etc.
At the end of the day, if a woman wants to be with you she will make it very clear, i'm sorry to say that this does not seem like it to me but I hope I am wrong.
And if she don't, bin her off. They take great pleasure in having you hooked for months when they have no intention, it's all about the attention. I wasted 7 years of my 20s chasing some bint who kept leading me on. 7 fucking years
And if she don't, bin her off.
I'm frustrated and angry but I won't rise to it yet.
I'll let her get through monday then I'm gonna ask her out. As I said previously. If it is a no she is gone and I get on with my life.
She didn't reply to me from last night after being really flirty and is clearly in some kind of territory where she doesn't want to put it out there.
There's always the cousin to fall back onYour analysis is correct.
The bit about second guessing is right, although this time round I'm emotionally more with it and wiser to getting fucked over.
We are texting so will see where it goes and what happens. She was at her cousins tonight and sent me a picture of them both saying her cousin sends me kisses (in a nice way).
I'm going to continue at this pace and then see where we get to in the next week or so, unless anything happens before.
Hope everyone is doing their best to stay healthy mentally!
Hopefully a little sense of normality is helping
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IMO when a relationship has ended, for some morbid reason, we kinda play down what pissed us off and remember the good times fondly. I have tried to rekindle a couple of times and it didn't work for me. The trust had gone and the magic had been spoilt. You are young enjoy yourself, I can assure you if you don't look for a woman, they will find youLockdown has been so weird. Someone said they breezed through first 8 weeks, I can confirm I did but since then it's just been weird. Weather don't help either. Let's begin from the start, in a nutshell.
Ended it with the gf in Jan, been thinking it for a while but did it. It had just got difficult without us really knowing it, many reasons I won't go into. Work with her BTW so no escape. Was due to move in with her in March but that got cancelled, housemate knnew I was on my way out so he made arrangements to shack up with his girl even though he didn't really want to. I then ended my relationship, he couldn't get out of moving in with his so from March I've been on my own.
First 8 weeks were a breeze, proper cleaned the flat after he left and made it more like my own. Every weekend tackling shit cleaning jobs, being ruthless in throwing out junk. Time flew, working from home. 8 weeks, a doddle. Actually saving 350 a month because of no gambling, drinking, eating at restaurants etc.
Next few weeks weather was superb so spent alot of time in the sun, walking or running (usually play footy 2-3 times a week) which made me feel great now the distracting of flat cleaning is over.
Now weather's been a fucking joke and I honestly find myself bored ouut my mind after work hours. Trying to not drink for the sake of it, enjoying the running and trying different healthy meals with the takeaway on a Fri. Cutting out all lager until pubs open.
Situation now is the ex wants to try again, I would love it to work but I dunno if I go down that route again and it doesn't work, how shit everything will be again. Throw in another office girl wants a piece as well, driving me mad offering all sorts. Offices really are utterly bizarre places.
Anyway not sure any of this has made sense. Will read back and apologise if not!
Will have to accelerate my own house search, I suspect. Mrs. Wisdom has a one and a half hour commute which was bad enough in 'normal' times, I *really* don't fancy sticking her on a train now, and driving will be a nightmare!me and the wife have tentatively started looking at houses, we're not committing to moving just discussing it.
I live in Earlsdon and it quite busy and noisy and I've always liked the hustle and bustle and the convenience where I am but the houses we were looking at (not making appointments just having a walk to the street of anything that took our fancy), were in really quiet areas and I realised that lock down has changed my out look and I'm now after the peace and quiet I've experienced in the last few months.
Will have to accelerate my own house search, I suspect. Mrs. Wisdom has a one and a half hour commute which was bad enough in 'normal' times, I *really* don't fancy sticking her on a train now, and driving will be a nightmare!
Yup!Is that one and a half hours each way?
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