Then why did you apologize?
And can I ask what prompted you to mention a gay player on this thread? Why would he be 'hard' more often than anyone else? (if that was the joke you were making)
It wasn't very welcoming and not clearly a joke. Why do you abjectly refuse to employ the gifts you were given? I think you are so used to being under fire and responding accordingly that you have forgotten how to respond appropriately.