The first thing to say is: I hope you're okay. Grief and existential angst often go hand-in-hand and I think we've all felt this way from time to time.Anyone any words of wisdom on what’s the point? Does anything we do really matter?
Sorry to hear how this is affecting you, Pete.Anyone else experiencing this?
First guy had at least retired and was just 70 the most recent lady is my age and was such a lovely person
Anyone any words of wisdom on what’s the point? Does anything we do really matter?
You accumulate the more sad events like this the older you get.Anyone else experiencing this?
First guy had at least retired and was just 70 the most recent lady is my age and was such a lovely person
Anyone any words of wisdom on what’s the point? Does anything we do really matter?
Makes so much less sense when they are not that old doesn't it.Had a revelation that I do focus on the past rather than what’s to come and you’ve both said quite similar things there
This has hit hard they can’t have been much older than me 53
Sorry to hear how this is affecting you, Pete.
I cannot find any point at all, but just hang in there, is the best I can come up with. And for me, I live each day like it could be my last day on earth
So I try to smile as much as I can and try and be nice to everyone I encounter.
Love not hate
Christ ! Good job we have got you Feckers - just spat me breakfastI can vouch for Otis having no fear of death - I've seen how he drives.
Had a revelation that I do focus on the past rather than what’s to come and you’ve both said quite similar things there
This has hit hard they can’t have been much older than me 53
When I worked there, guy in my dept. committed suicide. In his 40’s I think, but tough to handle for us, as hadn’t realised he was in any “pain”. Always asking yourself if there was anything you could have done.I worked for MF for nearly 40
Years and sadly it happens regularly now in my sixties - however we have a meeting every month in a pub with around 30 ex colleagues and within this group it’s inevitable but we always talk with affection about our colleagues and you hear a lot of different anecdotes - in my time as a manager I had two of my staff die quite young including my best man and it was pretty tough as we were very close at work - you spend more time with your work colleagues sometimes than your family
Remember them with affection and relate the good times to their family when you have a chance !
Fuckin hell!!!!Sorry for your loss , I worked with an absolute gem of a women a few years ago . Her and her partner were getting married , he hadnt been feeling to well and was diagnosed with cancer they postponed the wedding and he died on what would of been thier wedding day.
A month or two later she went away with her friend for a few days break and choked to death whilst having a meal. She was truly was truly a wonderful woman and did not deserve the last two years of her life
Especially as I was waiting for my ex, Russian wife, to pop over there for a holiday , in the hope she might at some point, accidentally fall out of a Moscow window, or perish in a salt mine, but no, she's still walking around and is absolutely fine.Makes so much less sense when they are not that old doesn't it.
I lost one brother when he was 55 and my other brother has had two wives die on him and Em's (my partner) friend had one partner die of cancer and then, after a while, met someone else and they died of cancer too
All of the above, apart from my brother, were well under 50.
Sad isn't it. It does make you question everything
So sorry to hear, Daz.Sorry for your loss , I worked with an absolute gem of a women a few years ago . Her and her partner were getting married , he hadnt been feeling to well and was diagnosed with cancer they postponed the wedding and he died on what would of been thier wedding day.
A month or two later she went away with her friend for a few days break and choked to death whilst having a meal. She was truly was truly a wonderful woman and did not deserve the last two years of her life
Yup. As the old saying goes "If you can't say anything nice about someone, get AI to conjure up a little insult on your behalf and post it up on social media everywhere "It’s really rough…colleagues often become our closest friends right?
A bloke in my old team died of cancer a few years back. He went kinda quick. He was quite a bit older than me.
It was a strange one, I liked him and we’d chat quite a bit but his rep amongst a lot of the others wasn’t great. If there was a scapegoat, he was it.
Interesting how all that changed when he died. Be nice people.
Made me think about some of those people…
I retired early. Best thing I ever did .Nothing really matters and nobody matters to anyone other than a select few (which you can probably count on one hand).
When I first started working in my current job, I started on a Wednesday, someone retired on the Friday and was dead by the Monday. Always said to myself from then on that as soon as I can afford to retire I'm done.
I’m desperately hoping it’s an option. I can’t take another 20 years!!I retired early. Best thing I ever did .
Many thanks to her for all her hard work.My wife has told me she's retiring at 55 , she will have done over 30 years with the NHS by then. That's enough for anyone.
Good luck to her
I’d be interested to hear her experiences of working for the NHS. I hear a lot of horror stories.My wife has told me she's retiring at 55 , she will have done over 30 years with the NHS by then. That's enough for anyone.
Good luck to her
She started in 1998 and actually persuaded me against doing my nurse training about 15 years ago as even then she said the job had changed so much and Nurses don't always have the time to provide the face to face patient care that they should , I work within the NHS as a carer at all the special needs schools in Coventry and a respite centre for kids that have learning disabilities and life limiting illnesses . I feel very lucky to work with then children and their families . It can be hard but ultimately very rewarding { extra couple of grand a year wouldnt go a missI’d be interested to hear her experiences of working for the NHS. I hear a lot of horror stories.
55 would be a great age to retire.
Our recent experiences in hospital were very positive with respect to midwives and nurses. Mostly very dedicated people trying their best, couldn't be more supportive and especially in a ward full of crying babies.She started in 1998 and actually persuaded me against doing my nurse training about 15 years ago as even then she said the job had changed so much and Nurses don't always have the time to provide the face to face patient care that they should , I work within the NHS as a carer at all the special needs schools in Coventry and a respite centre for kids that have learning disabilities and life limiting illnesses . I feel very lucky to work with then children and their families . It can be hard but ultimately very rewarding { extra couple of grand a year wouldnt go a miss
Sounds like an amazing way to earn a living mate…a real privilege. I can only imagine how tough it must be at times. I knew you were a carer but not that you were employed by the NHS too.She started in 1998 and actually persuaded me against doing my nurse training about 15 years ago as even then she said the job had changed so much and Nurses don't always have the time to provide the face to face patient care that they should , I work within the NHS as a carer at all the special needs schools in Coventry and a respite centre for kids that have learning disabilities and life limiting illnesses . I feel very lucky to work with then children and their families . It can be hard but ultimately very rewarding { extra couple of grand a year wouldnt go a miss
Anyone else experiencing this?
First guy had at least retired and was just 70 the most recent lady is my age and was such a lovely person
Anyone any words of wisdom on what’s the point? Does anything we do really matter?
AVC’s. 30 years will give approx 3/8 final salary if she doesn’t take the lump sum. Save. It will happen sooner than she thinks. Plus, she may have to retire at 57?My wife has told me she's retiring at 55 , she will have done over 30 years with the NHS by then. That's enough for anyone.
Good luck to her
Well i'm not telling herAVC’s. 30 years will give approx 3/8 final salary if she doesn’t take the lump sum. Save. It will happen sooner than she thinks. Plus, she may have to retire at 57?
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