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ccfcno9

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  • Dec 8, 2025
  • #71
Joe King said:
Sorry for just giving a "like" on posts. I just want you all to know I've read them all. Everyone has posted smashing replies and I would be ages replying to each individual post. But genuine love to you all and thank you all so very much for all the tremendous support. x x x
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I hope things are still looking up and although your not religious I'm not either but have added some pictures of the 'dark forces' routing for you. Its my 20 dollar Aztec god of health and £60 Buddha bought from the range after a trip to Thailand. It hopefully raise's a smile in the not to distant future.
 
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Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 8, 2025
  • #72
ccfcno9 said:
I hope things are still looking up and although your not religious I'm not either but have added some pictures of the 'dark forces' routing for you. Its my 20 dollar Aztec god of health and £60 Buddha bought from the range after a trip to Thailand. It hopefully raise's a smile in the not to distant future.View attachment 47615View attachment 47614
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I've had a Buddah in my house for years. Sits behind my collection of dragons.
 

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itsabuzzard

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  • Dec 8, 2025
  • #73
Joe King said:
Sorry for just giving a "like" on posts. I just want you all to know I've read them all. Everyone has posted smashing replies and I would be ages replying to each individual post. But genuine love to you all and thank you all so very much for all the tremendous support. x x x
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You've got plenty more important things to do than replying to every single post!
 
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Otis

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  • Dec 8, 2025
  • #74
We found we had a couple of Buddha's in our back garden when we moved over 2 years ago.

Wondered why we were having no good fortune until I found out they were actually sumo wrestlers and not Buddha's.

 
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Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 9, 2025
  • #75
Wife is now back home, although very unsteady on her legs and her mental capacity seems to have gotten worse. Ah well, at least I can keep my eye on her. Thank you all for your kind messages of support. X
 
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StrettoBoy

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  • Dec 9, 2025
  • #76
Joe King said:
Wife is now back home, although very unsteady on her legs and her mental capacity seems to have gotten worse. Ah well, at least I can keep my eye on her. Thank you all for your kind messages of support. X
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I'm really pleased that's she's back home with you.

She has been very ill, although thankfully now on the road to recovery, so it is perhaps unsurprising that she is unsteady on her legs. I hope that her mental capacity will improve as she starts to feel better.



 

Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 9, 2025
  • #77
StrettoBoy said:
I'm really pleased that's she's back home with you.

She has been very ill, although thankfully now on the road to recovery, so it is perhaps unsurprising that she is unsteady on her legs. I hope that her mental capacity will improve as she starts to feel better.



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Her mental health has deteriorated quitte badly since her stroke 3½ years ago. Sometimes not even knowing who I am. Just now, driving home, she asked where we were going and when I said "home", she asked "Will Baz be there?".
I'm Baz, her husband.
 
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chiefdave

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  • Dec 9, 2025
  • #78
Joe King said:
Her mental health has deteriorated quitte badly since her stroke 3½ years ago. Sometimes not even knowing who I am. Just now, driving home, she asked where we were going and when I said "home", she asked "Will Baz be there?".
I'm Baz, her husband.
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I feel for you mate, it's a horrible thing to go through. Occasionally my Dad will sound like he's making some sense and then you'll get some comment like 'tell David to visit when you see him', no idea who he thinks I am.
 
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Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 9, 2025
  • #79
chiefdave said:
I feel for you mate, it's a horrible thing to go through. Occasionally my Dad will sound like he's making some sense and then you'll get some comment like 'tell David to visit when you see him', no idea who he thinks I am.
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Even on her hospital discharge notes, they've put that on her arrival to the ward the other day, she asked a nurse what airport this was and where are we going?
 
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Mcbean

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  • Dec 9, 2025
  • #80
Good news give her a big hug from all of us
 
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Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 9, 2025
  • #81
Mcbean said:
Good news give her a big hug from all of us
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I've told her of the love and support from you all.
 
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StrettoBoy

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  • Dec 10, 2025
  • #82
Joe King said:
Her mental health has deteriorated quitte badly since her stroke 3½ years ago. Sometimes not even knowing who I am. Just now, driving home, she asked where we were going and when I said "home", she asked "Will Baz be there?".
I'm Baz, her husband.
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I’m sorry to hear that, it must be very difficult for you.

I hope she is receiving the medical care she deserves, which can hopefully slow the rate of decline if nothing else.

At least she is home with you now, which must be the best thing for both of you.



 
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Flying Fokker

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  • Dec 11, 2025
  • #83
StrettoBoy said:
I’m sorry to hear that, it must be very difficult for you.

I hope she is receiving the medical care she deserves, which can hopefully slow the rate of decline if nothing else.

At least she is home with you now, which must be the best thing for both of you.



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It’s really important that you find respite occasionally. Keep posting stuff on here. You will no doubt feel exhausted (physical and mental) some times.
 
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bigfatronssba

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  • Dec 11, 2025
  • #84
Joe King said:
Even on her hospital discharge notes, they've put that on her arrival to the ward the other day, she asked a nurse what airport this was and where are we going?
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I'm no expert by any means, but I work for a social care provider. Not in a care capacity, but work close with them so have picked up a few hints over the years on how to be with people when their mental capacity declines.

Try and make things as familiar as possible for her. Get out all the old photo albums, have her favourite songs playing in the background, old films and TV. Basically all the things she will recognise.

Whilst I know its awful for you having to deal with this, take comfort in knowing that she can still feel joy and happiness. You can still make her happy, and make her feel comfortable & safe
 
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Sky_Blue_Daz

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  • Dec 19, 2025
  • #85
Sorry to bump just wondered how the boss was getting on
 

Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 19, 2025
  • #86
Sky_Blue_Daz said:
Sorry to bump just wondered how the boss was getting on
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Thanks SBD. Her mental state seems to be on the decline sadly. She talks absolute gibberish at times. We live in a small, one bedroom bungalow, but she still thinks we have an upstairs area. She asks me which way is the bathroom. We've lived here nearly 6 years. She was put on Apiprazole, which is supposed to help with her mental state, but doesn't seem to be doing a lot of good. Thankfully, we had an emergency system installed, so if I need help to get her up off the floor, I can press a button and they will send someone round ASAP.
I could fill pages of stuff she does, but it would take up too much time!
Thank you for concern. It's very much appreciated. Regards, Baz.
 
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Sky_Blue_Daz

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  • Dec 19, 2025
  • #87
Joe King said:
Thanks SBD. Her mental state seems to be on the decline sadly. She talks absolute gibberish at times. We live in a small, one bedroom bungalow, but she still thinks we have an upstairs area. She asks me which way is the bathroom. We've lived here nearly 6 years. She was put on Apiprazole, which is supposed to help with her mental state, but doesn't seem to be doing a lot of good. Thankfully, we had an emergency system installed, so if I need help to get her up off the floor, I can press a button and they will send someone round ASAP.
I could fill pages of stuff she does, but it would take up too much time!
Thank you for concern. It's very much appreciated. Regards, Baz.
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More power to you mate and all the best to the good lady
 
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mmttww

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  • Dec 20, 2025
  • #88
@Joe King

I don't know if you have support or respite care that allows you to get out the house. If you do, and you're struggling or could use a place to meet folks, if there's an Andy's Man Club group near you, it's worth a shot. Has helped me and a mate during some really difficult stuff. All the best to You and Yours, fella.
 
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Mcbean

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  • Dec 20, 2025
  • #89
HH - Whatever she says or does her character and her love for you is in there just hiding behind a door that will open every now and again - thoughts are with you and your wife - hopefully the door gets stuck open
 
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Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 20, 2025
  • #90
Mcbean said:
HH - Whatever she says or does her character and her love for you is in there just hiding behind a door that will open every now and again - thoughts are with you and your wife - hopefully the door gets stuck open
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Lovely words Mcbean. Thank you.
 
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StrettoBoy

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  • Dec 21, 2025
  • #91
Mcbean said:
HH - Whatever she says or does her character and her love for you is in there just hiding behind a door that will open every now and again - thoughts are with you and your wife - hopefully the door gets stuck open
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A lovely post, which I wholeheartedly endorse

Best of luck @Joe King. I think of you and your wife every day.



 
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Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 21, 2025
  • #92
StrettoBoy said:
A lovely post, which I wholeheartedly endorse

Best of luck @Joe King. I think of you and your wife every day.



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Thanks Stretto.
 
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Sky Blue Harry H

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  • Dec 21, 2025
  • #93
Just spotted this thread. Youve both been through the mill, bless you. Fingers crossed that Mrs 'H' can make as full a recovery as possible - thinking of you both. Much love - enjoyed reading your posts about the I.O.W. and glad you've received the support of the health services and the SBA on here.
 
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Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Dec 21, 2025
  • #94
Sky Blue Harry H said:
Just spotted this thread. Youve both been through the mill, bless you. Fingers crossed that Mrs 'H' can make as full a recovery as possible - thinking of you both. Much love - enjoyed reading your posts about the I.O.W. and glad you've received the support of the health services and the SBA on here.
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I've really been overwhelmed by the love and support from you lads on here. It's made me feel very humble. I just wanted to reach out for a bit of moral support and by God, you've all come up trumps. I'm still struggling with her mental state, in fact literally 10 minutes ago, she got up off the settee and said, "Which way is it to my part of the house?". I led her to the bedroom and put her to bed. It's so sad to think that she spent 32 years as a legal secretary to top barristers and appeared in court to take down records of really serious and tragic cases, many of which she bought home to complete. She then worked for the Land Registry before moving to the job centre before retiring. Her shorthand and typing were an amazing speed, yet now, she can barely use her phone to tap out numbers etc.
Once again, I can't thank everyone enough for your fabulous support.
Love and best wishes and PUSB!
Baz and Wendy. X
 
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StrettoBoy

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  • Dec 21, 2025
  • #95
It's tough for you Baz but at least she's home and you are obviously looking after her well.

It's only a couple of weeks since you first posted on 5th December, when you were understandably heartbroken at the thought that she might not pull through. I hope you feel in a better place, challenging though it is, than you did then.

All the very best to you both.



 
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Kneeza

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  • Dec 23, 2025
  • #96
So sorry Houch. This thread somehow completely passed me by until just now. No idea how.
Try to stay strong mate. It's an awful thing to go through. I can't offer prayers, but I'll be thinking of you both.
X
 
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StrettoBoy

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  • Dec 25, 2025
  • #97
Hi, just checking in to see how you are doing @Joe King. I hope you have managed to have a nice Christmas Day.

A good win tomorrow against Swansea will doubtless help to lift your spirits a bit.



 
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Joe King

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  • Dec 25, 2025
  • #98
StrettoBoy said:
Hi, just checking in to see how you are doing @Joe King. I hope you have managed to have a nice Christmas Day.

A good win tomorrow against Swansea will doubtless help to lift your spirits a bit.



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Hi SB.
Had a very quiet Christmas day thanks. Wendy woke me up at 2.30am to ask if I wanted a coffee! Anyway, without going on too much, I've struggled a bit today with her, but she enjoyed a visit from her daughter and then we just had a relaxed day. She's gone to bed at 10pm, so hopefully boxing day will be a little better. Thank you so much for your concern. It means so much. Hope you had a nice Christmas day yourself.
Love Baz and Wendy x
 
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StrettoBoy

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  • Dec 31, 2025
  • #99
Hi Baz,

Just popping in to wish you and Wendy a better year in 2026. Your love for your wife really shines through. You are an inspiration to us all.

Best wishes,

Keith



 
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olderskyblue

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  • Jan 1, 2026
  • #100
Yes, hope it’s a better year for you both
 
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Sbarcher

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  • Jan 1, 2026
  • #101
All the best for 2026. Keep the faith.
 
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Domo

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  • Jan 3, 2026
  • #102
Wishing you both well, and all the family for 2026 @Joe King
 
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Mcbean

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  • Wednesday at 4:16 PM
  • #103
@Joe King how are you getting on - I am
Hoping you have a few things sorted to make it easier - guys in here have some knowlege I think about support just need to ask and someone will Come up with a direction ( not much about football but hey ho )
 

Joe King

Fairly well known member from Malvern
  • Yesterday at 9:11 AM
  • #104
Mcbean said:
@Joe King how are you getting on - I am
Hoping you have a few things sorted to make it easier - guys in here have some knowlege I think about support just need to ask and someone will Come up with a direction ( not much about football but hey ho )
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Hi Mcbean. Only just read this. ( not always lurking on here!). Still no change. Her sleep pattern is still awful. She's awake half the night, then wanders around the bungalow. She had a sleep yesterday evening till about 7pm, then got up and started to sort clothes out. I asked what she was doing and she said "getting my things ready for the wedding"! She didn't have a clue who's wedding she was thinking of, but I assured her that we weren't going to any wedding!
She's off to day care in a bit, which gives me a break for the day.
Thanks for your concern and of course, everyone else who has supported me.
Regards, Baz.
 
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Otis

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  • Yesterday at 9:27 AM
  • #105
Joe King said:
Hi Mcbean. Only just read this. ( not always lurking on here!). Still no change. Her sleep pattern is still awful. She's awake half the night, then wanders around the bungalow. She had a sleep yesterday evening till about 7pm, then got up and started to sort clothes out. I asked what she was doing and she said "getting my things ready for the wedding"! She didn't have a clue who's wedding she was thinking of, but I assured her that we weren't going to any wedding!
She's off to day care in a bit, which gives me a break for the day.
Thanks for your concern and of course, everyone else who has supported me.
Regards, Baz.
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Good luck, Baz. I know how tough it can be.
 
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