Heart goes out to you JHFC.
I am going to ask my parents if they will move in with us. I know the answer will be no though. I can sleep on the couch and my wife and daughter can share a room and they can have the other room. They are fiercely independent though, very much so. Completely set in their ways.
It's hard to know what to do. They are are both clearly struggling, my dad, physically and my mum mentally. No way would they go in a home, so it looks like I might just have to keep driving over every day.
Told them not to cook anything and stick to ready meals. Not ideal of course, but safety has to be paramount and I can see them setting fire to the place if they are not careful.
And the obvious answer for most of us is, no we don't have the skills.I think you'll see an increase in people preparing for moving their parents back in with them, (Granny flats on the side of the house etc), I know some are already doing it.
And I think our generation will be a bit more receptive to losing a bit of independence when we're older now we are seeing the consequence of these illnesses.
Losing their house and not being able to pass it onto their kids really hurt my in laws, it 's a conundrum we're all going to have to face.
I would say however, that in my experience, if you haven't got the skills to look after a sufferer once they've deteriorated past a certain point just moving them in with you won't be enough, they'll need specialist care.
And the obvious answer for most of us is, no we don't have the skills.
Funny things, aren't they...internet forums. Anything CCFC related, even though it's a common interest, we disagree, bicker and you build up images of people, sometimes negatively. You then read some of the stories on here which forces you to remember that we're all human. We all have our own stories of success, failure, happiness, sadness etc. It's a like a great little escape on here sometimes and hearing peoples stories. Puts a lot of things into perspective.
Back on topic, I've just been reading this.
Dementia and football: brain injury study to begin in January
I know there's been quite a bit of work done on these sorts of studies in NFL and I'm not surprised there's now a study in football and the links with Dementia/Alzheimers. I always wonder what can be done about it though. Is it a case of working with retired footballers and educating them on what might happen? Glad that it's being looked into though...a positive step forward in our little world of football.
Heart goes out to you JHFC.
I am going to ask my parents if they will move in with us. I know the answer will be no though. I can sleep on the couch and my wife and daughter can share a room and they can have the other room. They are fiercely independent though, very much so. Completely set in their ways.
It's hard to know what to do. They are are both clearly struggling, my dad, physically and my mum mentally. No way would they go in a home, so it looks like I might just have to keep driving over every day.
Told them not to cook anything and stick to ready meals. Not ideal of course, but safety has to be paramount and I can see them setting fire to the place if they are not careful.
Its not just about having the skills set either, it became dangerous for my mother as my dad went through a brief period of basically being a 15st spitting ball of confusion, anger, depression, rage & madness......horrible times indeed.
The financial side of things was a nightmare too........and its a total lottery with regards funding or not.....there was another fella in the same care home as my dad who had identical needs......but due to him having a minor medical condition prior to the onset of alzheimers, his care was 100% funded......my dads was not. The whole system is a fucking farce.
Yep. I've said it before SBWM....I use this place as therapy:emoji_cry::emoji_laughing::emoji_sunglasses::emoji_ok_hand:
Who's that then? I would love to meet him.Weird isn't it? You've got all the qualified help in medical institutions in the world, yet sometimes the best therapy can come from a bloke who bought a load of train tickets in April
Who's that then? I would love to meet him.
Great! Hope no-one's filled in the crossword puzzle.There's a mirror on it's way to you in the post Otis!
Funny things, aren't they...internet forums. Anything CCFC related, even though it's a common interest, we disagree, bicker and you build up images of people, sometimes negatively. You then read some of the stories on here which forces you to remember that we're all human. We all have our own stories of success, failure, happiness, sadness etc. It's a like a great little escape on here sometimes and hearing peoples stories. Puts a lot of things into perspective
Glad I started this thread now as I was a bit unsure as it is a tricky subject. But reading the comments/stories it has raised some good points. Only last week a customer of mine who's around my age, he has dementia and it is scary to see how in just six months how rapidly his decline. When I was up the ladder he started shaking the bottom rungs, if it wasn't for his missus dragging him in I'd have probably come off !
He has been a Man City fan since I've known him, so he probably thought he'd shake me off my ladder for spite as he liked to wind me up being a Cov fan !
Will look it up. Never heard of it.If you are talking people under normal dementia age they normally actually get a diffeeent form - such as Pitts Disease. This attacks the frontal lobe aggressively and onset occurs within a matter of months.
Looked it up. You may have a point. My customer has changed dramatically in six months. His missus can't cope now as he's unpredictable etc.If you are talking people under normal dementia age they normally actually get a diffeeent form - such as Pitts Disease. This attacks the frontal lobe aggressively and onset occurs within a matter of months.
Will look it up. Never heard of it.
No, not diagnosed yet. Saw the GP Tuesday and now awaiting the test results back.Just to take a step back Otis, am I right to say your mum hasn't actually being diagnosed with anything yet? If so she may just be getting forgetful, it does happen to people without anything more sinister behind it. Hopefully that's the case.
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