Nick
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Sorry to hear both your stories as well. Hope they are both ok too!
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tisza
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My Daughter is making some progress but the borderline issue is literally a day to day thing. The busier we keep her the better she is.
My friend struggled initially. A bit ashamed and embarrassed by his attempt. But he has a great wife and circle of friends (something he hadn't really appreciated as being there) who kept him up and now he has put much of his life back together - giving up alcohol was a big help
clint van damme
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Tisza, Blind faith - so sorry to hear your stories, I sincerely hope everything works out. Don't really know what else to say.
Blind-Faith
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Don’t worry , nothing you can say. She’s almost moved back in now, walking about with a stick. Her back gives her grief from time to time, but she’s looking at getting back into work.
the funny part of the story is she ended up on ward 53 at Coventry hospital. I work in the hospital itself doing some construction work , and guess which ward I was working on at the time???
the bad part of it for me personally is I nearly drank myself to death over it, hence now I’m a boring tee total bloke who goes to support groups twice a week.
the funny part of the story is she ended up on ward 53 at Coventry hospital. I work in the hospital itself doing some construction work , and guess which ward I was working on at the time???
the bad part of it for me personally is I nearly drank myself to death over it, hence now I’m a boring tee total bloke who goes to support groups twice a week.
BodicoteSkyBlue
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His missus left back end of last year & he’d told me he was struggling dealing with it all, but never expected him to try & end it all. He’s one of them old school pull yourself together types. Or at least he used to be.
Sbarcher
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Keep her close BF. We lost our daughter 2 years ago. She got herself into debt and was in a toxic relationship. We knew nothing about it even though she was seeing someone at our local mental health centre.
She left behind an 8 year old who she adored. We will never know what was going on in her head when she did it and it drives my wife crazy wondering what she could have done to help or prevent it. I guess unless you are in that situation, you can put no logic to it.
She had no idea of the turmoil and chaos it's created in the lives of those she left behind.................
clint van damme
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fucking hell mate, my heart goes out to you and your wife.
I had something similar happen to a friend of mine so have seen the aftermath. It really is devastating.
Nick
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NorthernWisdom
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The short answer is nothing.
We're all human, we're all imperfect, and we all do our best. Sometimes, for whatever reason, our best isn't good enough but that doesn't have to be a reflection on you or your wife. I'm sure she did more than many. Sometimes, things can't be explained, or predicted.
My sympathies, to you all. I hope you find the peace you deserve.
tisza
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Desperately sorry to hear this.
When my daughter tried she was 1000s kms away - ripped our world to pieces. Hard to describe the physical pain, let alone the emotional one, when we got the phone call.
We also still spend time wondering how we missed it, what we could have done differently etc. Everytime the landline goes there's a sense of panic.
My wife's relationship with our son-in-law will probably never be fixed. He was supposed to be looking after her and missed all the signs.
Blind-Faith
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mate I’m so sorry to hear that. Honestly I hope you and your wife are all ok.
that’s what pisses me off , all the people and devastation she would of left behind , the fact that for a moment she was stood on the edge of a bridge over a motorway and jumped , didn’t call me or anything.
clint van damme
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There are some really brave and incredible people on this thread who have faced terrible adversity but have found the courage to share their stories.
Hope that doesn't sound condescending I can tell you I genuinely salute everyone of you.
I will still be over reacting to the result of a football match in the next hour or two but that's life!
Fair play to all of you.
Hope that doesn't sound condescending I can tell you I genuinely salute everyone of you.
I will still be over reacting to the result of a football match in the next hour or two but that's life!
Fair play to all of you.
Nick
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Amazing isn't it!
Rich
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This thread has certainly spiralled beyond my own depressed expectations when I wrote the first post.
From a very selfish perspective I just wanted to put out what I was going through, how I felt and felt this a safe place to do so given that none of you actually know me in real life.
I’m so glad that so many of you have been able to share some of your troubles, some of you are going through some tough times and I hope that sharing here helps you all to come out of the other side.
Well done lads
From a very selfish perspective I just wanted to put out what I was going through, how I felt and felt this a safe place to do so given that none of you actually know me in real life.
I’m so glad that so many of you have been able to share some of your troubles, some of you are going through some tough times and I hope that sharing here helps you all to come out of the other side.
Well done lads
tisza
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I was impressed by your simple honesty and courage to actually post on a football "male" site which could have backfired.
It made me read through all the posts and eventually decide to post and then share some of my own situations - something I thought I would never have done.
Brighton Sky Blue
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I think Gary Speed’s case was a great example of how well people can hide their struggles until it’s too late.
Brighton Sky Blue
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skyblue1991
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If there is anyone looking to lose weight, have a read of James Smith's Not a Diet Book
No bullshit, just hard truths.
Not on a diet myself but into my fitness and so far it's a great read and would help those looking to lose a bit of timber!
He's on Instagram too if you use it, worth a follow.
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No bullshit, just hard truths.
Not on a diet myself but into my fitness and so far it's a great read and would help those looking to lose a bit of timber!
He's on Instagram too if you use it, worth a follow.
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shmmeee
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No one wants to be with someone who sees themselves as lesser than them. Why would you? They’re lesser, you can do better.
fellatio_Martinez
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I read that book last week and it is good at cutting through all the diet jargon crap we see in our newsfeeds everyday.
The parts about improving sleep and relationships is also very helpful for people with anxiety and depression.
SkyBlue_Bear83
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Got stood up for a date last night
clint van damme
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Happened to us all mate at some point mate.
Put it behind you and move on.
fellatio_Martinez
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Back when I was single I was supposed to meet up with a girl one night. She had been texting me flat out for a week and seemed really up for it. I got ready, headed into town but she wasn't where we were meant to meet. I got a pint and waited then messaged her asking where she was, she replied "Sorry, I was sleeping. Won't bother meeting tonight" and that was the last I heard of her.
Some women just like to waste your time. As Clint says, it happens to everyone.
Some women just like to waste your time. As Clint says, it happens to everyone.
Marty
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tisza
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someone you'd asked in person or a dating site?
If it was someone you'd asked in person then it's still an improvement on where you before as you made the step of asking.
Sick Boy
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Everyone gets hurt, it's the way you deal with it and learn from it that makes you stronger.
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clint van damme
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They really aren't. Same as not all men are (insert derogatory characteristic here).
Marty
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OMG, It was a jokey throw away comment, of course I don't think that, ffs.
clint van damme
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My mistake. Apologies.
Sky Blue Pete
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Ditto
skyblue1991
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Hope you are feeling better fella. There are plenty more fish in the sea, you have dodged a bullet there.
Have you joined any social clubs or activity centres outside of work? A common interest is an easy ice breaker to getting to talking to people firstly as acquaintances but the more you talk to people (women) there will be one or two that are on your wavelength that you can take forward to a date.
Confidence is sexy my friend; fake it until you make it!
fernandopartridge
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You never know what's going on in the other person's life either mate tbf
SkyBlue_Bear83
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Could have at least said they weren’t going to make it or be upfront if they are not interested.
Marty
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Yes, she should have, just be thankful you didn't waste time or money on her, onto the next one pal.
shmmeee
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Yeah could’ve been a million things mate. That way madness lies. Worst case she’s a dick who cancels without texting and you dodged a bullet.
Keep going. It’s as much about desensitising yourself to rejection so you don’t come off as desperate as anything else at this point. Don’t put any one woman on a pedestal, just move onto the next one. Don’t think of it as trying to meet someone, think of it as a self improvement process you’re learning from.
You’ll get there buddy.
