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Congratulations.

My tip is don't buy loads of expensive clothes as she will probably live in ASDA baby grows for 95% of the time

Congratulations to you and your partner GE!

Help when you can. Do the night feeds when not in work the next morning. Let your partner have a total break from baby duties when you can. Try to get her to have a night out with her friends when she has recovered. And most important is remind her that she is looking great (even if she isn't)

Enjoy every moment. Because before you know it you will have a wrecking machine on your hands :smuggrin:

Great_Expectations said:

Apologies if this is a little self indulgent, but this morning my partner gave birth to our first child; a little girl. She came two weeks early and with very little warning, so it’s all very surreal at the minute. And obviously incredibly exciting!

Any tips on anything baby related would be greatly appreciated?!

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Congratulations, mate!

Only tip from me is to avoid the eyes of social services on them and avoid ccfc

Great_Expectations said:

Apologies if this is a little self indulgent, but this morning my partner gave birth to our first child; a little girl. She came two weeks early and with very little warning, so it’s all very surreal at the minute. And obviously incredibly exciting!

Any tips on anything baby related would be greatly appreciated?!

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Congratulations, Great Expectations indeed!
Just relax, no right or wrong way to do things, don't get hung up on guidance people write on the internet

Congratulations

The first 35 years are the worst part...

fernandopartridge said:

Just relax, no right or wrong way to do things, don't get hung up on guidance people write on the internet

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Also when the other mums are comparing with the shite about when they could do this, when they could do that etc. Half the time they make it up anyway.

Congratulations as Nick said don’t get drawn into buying expensive clothes the child doesn’t know or care if it’s Armani or George and nothing fits for long.

Congratulations. Enjoy every moment you can. In the next few weeks you will be bombarded by visitors: if your partner is tired then show them the door.
Use your parents/in laws etc to give you and your partner time just for an hour together...even if that’s just for a walk to the local shops.


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Congratulations mate
All the best to you and your partner

Great_Expectations said:

Apologies if this is a little self indulgent, but this morning my partner gave birth to our first child; a little girl. She came two weeks early and with very little warning, so it’s all very surreal at the minute. And obviously incredibly exciting!

Any tips on anything baby related would be greatly appreciated?!

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My advice from personal experience:
Bring your girl up with the same expectations as if you had a boy.
Teach them all the things you would teach a boy.
Expect them to be strong and useful around the house.
We didn't, and now we have two daughters who are only interested in boys, make-up, perfume and clothes.

Get stuck in with a two footed challenge early doors to let her know you are there.

You may have been lulled into thinking that your job is now looking after your baby. It’s actually to look after the mother. Any looking after the baby will be a consequence of looking after the mother. For instance you’ll get into work to find a tired emotional person in the house, that will be the mother not the baby. Do as much housework as you can and then put the baby in the pram and take it for a long walk instructing said mother to get to bed and get some sleep on your way out.

Congratulations. You’re in for a treat. Make the most of the first period of their life where they’re dependent on you, it won’t last. Especially true of girls.

Congratulations! We're ten weeks in now with our first and the main things I would advise is to snap up any help family and friends offer, be aware that you might feel you're going slightly mental for the first week or two but that's ok and will pass, and someone else's way of doing things that worked for them may be the completely opposite way that works for you, essentially you just learn as you go how to get into your rhythm

Congrats on your Great Expectation! Always a worry with the first, but you'll be OK. First couple of months are easy, they only need feeding, burping and changing - fingers crossed, they sleep the rest of the time. Just make sure you take your turn and pamper the missus so she don't get PND. Good luck and well done!

hill83 said:

Get stuck in with a two footed challenge early doors to let her know you are there.

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He did that 9 months ago

Congratulations on the little one. I echo what Nick and Terry said about clothing - designer baby clothes are a waste that they’ll grow so quickly you’ll get no use out of them. Asda and Tesco stuff is perfect.

Also - Muslin squares - you can’t live without them!

Congrats GE!

Congrats to both you and your good lady.
Definately good advice is look after the missus. I would say the easiest period for me was newborn to about 5, it was just such an enjoyable period for both my kids.
When they hit their teens is by far the hardest work, it's a never ending ball ache. They won't listen to a word you say and will infact do the opposite just to piss you off.
Her first boyfriend is also frustrating, especially if you bloody hate his guts the moment you set eyes on him, like I did with my daughter. Thankfully he thought he was Liam Gallagher so he soon moved on thank fuck.

Good luck Mr and Mrs GE

Don’t compare yourself to anyone else, don’t set yourself unrealistic targets just use your instinct. Most importantly make the most of this very special time

lifeskyblue said:

... if your partner is tired then show them the door.

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Slightly harsh at this early stage!
Well done GE and un-missus GE!!

Great_Expectations said:

First night was fun, I’d say I had about three 20 minute naps and that was it!

She’s a little attention seeker already - if she’s awake she wants to be cuddled!

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Your partner?

Great_Expectations said:

First night was fun, I’d say I had about three 20 minute naps and that was it!

She’s a little attention seeker already - if she’s awake she wants to be cuddled!

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For the first three nights I found myself Googling to see how much sleep you can survive on without dying, feels like an absolute age ago now though. It should get better very quickly

Vodka on the Dummy

Great_Expectations said:

First night was fun, I’d say I had about three 20 minute naps and that was it!

She’s a little attention seeker already - if she’s awake she wants to be cuddled!

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We found classical music helped for the first month just to settle her down or them apps with the sound like rainfall

Congratulations mate, and welcome to your new life as a father.

It's a bit knackering for the first few months, and what I found is no sooner do you settle into a routine, than they change and you have to start again. It's the most rewarding job you'll ever have though.

My only advice would be to try to roll with it and accept the initial (and ongoing) chaos. You don't have to be perfect, and the house doesn't have to be immaculate.

Safe, warm, fed and rested is all that you're aiming for; that goes for you and mum too mate!

If you (or technically, the baby) is breastfeeding, Coventry has a dedicated team of peer-supporters. Look on the Council website. Use them without hesitation, a little advice here can go a long way if you run into issues. If you're not breastfeeding that's not a problem, but I thought it's worth a mention.

Enjoy it as much as you can and cuddle them whenever you get a chance is my other thought. Before you know it those hugs will become contingent on presents, sweets, or device time!

P.S. If any of your family offer you old baby clothes, especially vests, take them. It's amazing how much stuff they get through. If it can be spilled or spat, it will be spilled or spat!

make sure that you breast feed her, and when you get tired, pass her on to your missus.

Nick said:

Vodka on the Dummy

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Baby Pardew?

Congratulations, so much advice above which will really help.
For me, enjoy every second and take time to smile and enjoy every moment that they sit in your arms, make a smile, even cry in pain, not easy when you are tired, grumpy and hungry.
Those early 2 years go so quick so enjoy, it’s an amazing experience.

Oh, and make sure she follows the sky blues, we need all the fans we can get.

Enjoy

Well done ! - seriously don't overdo the pics on social media from a grumpy Uncle - Godfather - brother etc

ajsccfc said:

For the first three nights I found myself Googling to see how much sleep you can survive on without dying, feels like an absolute age ago now though. It should get better very quickly

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It goes unbelievably quickly, my little boy is coming up to 18 months old now and I just can't remember what having a new born is like. Hence I've got another one cooking at the min...

fernandopartridge said:

It goes unbelievably quickly, my little boy is coming up to 18 months old now and I just can't remember what having a new born is like. Hence I've got another one cooking at the min...

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Congratulations

Macca said:

Don’t compare yourself to anyone else, don’t set yourself unrealistic targets just use your instinct. Most importantly make the most of this very special time

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I couldn't have put it any better myself.